It has been quite the week. We have replaced the sewer side of our plumbing, moving on to the feed side next week. We had our ward Halloween Party last night with Trunk-or-Treat, Chili Cook-off, and Costume Contest. We were there long enough to eat chili but not really do the costume part, even though we did dress up. I had to walk across the hall and teach my 1.5 hour class on part two of the new FamilySearch website. The fun part it was completely in my Fitzwilliam Darcy costume. The class seemed to enjoy it.
Tonight we are having ourselves a Halloween Party at our house. We have invited over 30 but only about 20 RSVP’d. It should be fun. It is for the most part buddies from school. The interesting fact is that it falls on the 10th anniversary of the murder. A couple joked they were going to come as an Idaho inmate, but have changed their mind as it was a little tasteless. I am sure Amanda will post some of the pictures online on our joint blog of the occasion.
I took a mock exam this morning and feel I did fairly well considering only half way through the semester. I know which areas I need to work on rounding out more of my knowledge and understanding of the specific torts and the elements of each.
This week I have been in contact with some old family friends who were kind enough to share some recollections about the Jonas side of the family. Here are some excerpts from those communications.
“I woke up in the middle of the night when [Norwood] came home. Yelling, noises, thumping, screaming. I was scared, I had not met him yet. When I heard [voices], I peeked out the door. [Doug] was trying to pull his mother off his dad who was trying to stop [Norwood] from beating Jackie. She was 11 or 12. He was drunk and yelling that Jackie was not his child. Can you imagine the poor child. I had never been exposed to anything remotely like this. TV was not so graphic then. Wow. The next day no one said anything. Pretend it did not happen. I remember Doug suggesting hiding or removing the booze. [Colleen] said that would make him mean so she would not do that. I did not sleep well the entire time I was there. Norwood was cordial to me, even smiled and teased me. He was fine when not drinking.”
“Sandy was drinking and taking Motrin, she told me it was a “good high.” Motrin was prescription at the time and she took it for her constant pain. She had had severe head trauma and reconstructive surgery from the car accident where she totaled Doug”s Opel Cadet 2 1/2 years earlier. She showed me the pictures. Wow. You have probably seen them.”
“[Colleen] said she could not take Norwood’s drinking any longer and was filing for a divorce. Sandy was very upset. She said that if she divorced him they would never be together as a family in the Celestial Kingdom.”
“I must admit that Sandy’s remarks about the divorce struck everyone as being foreign due to her dislike of the church. But remember it is how you are raised. She knew nothing else. I believe that she reverted to a child when faced with the divorce of her parents. And that child believed in the Celestial Kingdom. She can not be an atheist, that is just a defense mechanism. She radically changed her memories of her father after he died. She embodied him and fought hard with her Mom.”
“[Doug] was very stressed over the fact of his parents divorcing but supported his mother’s decision. In the following months Sandy moved back to Cache Valley. [Doug] used to get late night calls from her. She was usually drunk, unhappy, hated being a Jonas. Hated her mother. She took to wearing her fathers clothes. Right down to his boxer shorts. I don’t know how many times she was in jail for disorderly conduct, drunk in public, open container, drunk driving. The laws were not so strict then. She finally had to leave Logan. The law was not going to tolerate her behavior any longer.”
[Doug and Linda's] wedding was planned for April 12, 1975. [They] mailed the invitations out on March 12th. Doug’s dad was no longer living at home. On March 14th, he was crossing the street and was hit by a 17 year old boy with his younger sister in the car. There are many versions of the story, no one really knows for sure. All I know for sure is…the day [the] wedding announcements arrived everyone was learning that Norwood was dead. It was a very tough time for Doug. He never had the adult relationship with his father that he always wanted, he grieved that loss for many, many years.”
“After the wedding and [the] open house in Richmond, Sandy [went] back to CA. Doug needed his sister and she needed him. She was very depressed and drinking an awful lot.”
“Colleen definitely softened in her memories of [Norwood] after he died. Occasionally she referred to him as “a son of a bitch.” With such a tone uncharacteristic of her. I remember the yelling in the Jonas household. It was almost like if [the family] did not yell you could not hear them. I never experienced [Colleen's] wrath, she always spoke calmly to me. At least that is what I am remembering today.”
“I found her to be a very loving woman. People seemed to flock to her because of that twinkle in her eye when she smiled. She was up at 3 am to put every hair in place. Men started arriving around 6 or so for coffee. A man she called “big brother”, 2 or 3 others, I do not remember their names. I remember I always got dressed before coming down because you never knew who would be there. It was always fun to watch her laugh. She could light up a room.”
“When I met her she hugged me and kissed and treated me like I was her friend. She shared herself with me as if we were close girlfriends. I wore rings on every finger, she loved my jewelry, I gave her a very special fish ring. It was silver and kinda wrapped around the finger. Needless to say she created her signature look beginning then.”
“I really am surprised you had not seen the pictures of your mom after the accident. She had reconstructive surgery. They show the rebuilding of her nose and cheek bones. I was told that her cheeks were plastic. There was orbital damage. It truly changed her overall appearance when you look at before accident and after pictures. I wonder where these pictures are. They were Colleen’s. They were pretty gruesome I remember them pretty vividly.”
“I still cannot smell blackberry brandy without fully remembering when [Sandy] rolled the jeep and we were searching the field, in the dark looking for you, terrified. You were with Grandma and we did not know. The jeep had the blackberry brandy all over in it because she was drinking from it when she rolled. She could not remember where you were, she was hurt pretty bad and I think her dog was killed. No cell phones at the time or we would have found you quicker. You were an infant, maybe Oct or Nov. [We] were living in Paul at the time. We all worked for Circle A, we called it Circle J.”
Anyhow, some interesting insights from an outsider!