in which you can do random things you might not otherwise do. Yesterday was
one of those opportunities.
I rode with Amanda down to school and spent part of the morning in the
library working on various little things. We had our lunch together and as
she went back to class, I went to visit the Capitol of the State of
Virginia. See, the State of Virginia had a special guest coming to visit.
I never got to see her while I lived in England, so why not take the time
since she will be in Richmond, Virginia. I arrived at the Capitol grounds
about 12:30 and started to enjoy the weather and scenery. It really was a
beautiful day. It was just like so many of the days I remembered in
England. The sky was overcast but warm. There was a certain humidity in
the air but it was comfortable. There was the slight drizzle that came down
but not enough to make you wet, just enough to dampen you.
In complete coincidence, I leaned against a temporary fence and watched the
people on the hill around the Capitol. I watched the marching band organize
and then they started playing and marched around the bottom of the hill. I
stayed where I was and I found myself pinned between the passing band and
the fence. It was with surprise that when the band had passed this familiar
looking man shook my hand and then proceeded past me a few feet and turned
up the ramp to the stage. I dawned on me who he was, the Governor Tim
Kaine. I was watching the band, it never passed my mind there was somebody
following them. It was obvious with his little entourage passing with him
they were for security. He was there to open the entertainment. Moral of
the story, if you get stuck against a wall, you never know who may shake
The music was really quite good. I enjoyed Ralph Stanley quite a bit. I
knew his voice from the O Brother Where Art Thou soundtrack. Jane Powell
was a great soul singer and powerful whistler! The whistling was very
impressive. They locked Capitol Square down at 2:30 and nobody else was
As the moment drew closer, Larry Bland and his volunteer choir were working
the audience. I think that was my favorite music in the whole show. It was
actually pretty moving. It was while he was singing, with his gospel choir,
He’s Got the Whole World in His Hands that Queen Elizabeth arrived. The
energy of the whole crowd exploded. We were a single mass and were very
drawn to the occasion. I do think the music really helped the tone. The
place where I was sitting I could hear the music loud and clear from the
speakers, it then echoed to me from the state buildings behind me, and also
an echo from the Capitol itself. So I was hearing Larry Bland and the choir
from three different angles all with slightly different timing. The
jumbotrons showed the Queen’s car arriving and the crowd’s excitement. It
was really a sensory overload in many ways. Mr. Bland went onto his
rendition of The Battle Hymn of the Republic which was pretty powerful too.
Finally Queen Elizabeth and Governor Kaine made their way back out of the
Governor’s Mansion towards the Capitol. They came around the side near
where I was. Due to the hill I could only see her about waste up, but it
was exciting. Everything was to be seen on the jumbotrons though, so I
wasn’t overly concerned. We watched her reception by the Chief’s of
Virginia Indian Tribes. She received her gifts and made her way into the
Capitol. I stayed so as to watch her speech to a joint session of the
At that point, most of the excitement was done and it was starting to
properly rain so I headed for the school to meet Amanda and head home.
Luckily, she finished school just shortly before Queen Elizabeth gave her
So that was an exciting day. I have applied for several jobs, but nothing
back yet. It was worth it though. How often do you get to see the Queen of
England in Virginia!
There are some new developments in the lives of Paul and Amanda I thought I would share.
We are often warned that gossip can be destructive. It certainly can. My mere association with others and their comments have come to haunt me. I don’t need to go into details as that would prove to further the gossip. My being present during a conversation and comments, which I thought were ambivalent, and even commenting caused things to be attached to my name. As it made its rounds, it found its way to a manager who then called me on the carpet. I tried to explain the situation but my presence that day cost me a great amount of trust.
The next punch came a couple days later. Here is the next rule of lesson for the day. Do not allow the lines of authority and responsibility to be
confused. With the loss of another employee I was asked to pick up the slack. That required access to their e-mail. Rather than giving me access
on my computer it was given on another computer under a manager’s username and password. This is my major mistake. That manager had to sign me in and I was operating on her system. I was awkward with it, but it came back to get me. I had access to a whole host of things. Some of it I had to come in contact with due to the nature of what I was doing. During which, I forwarded e-mails to may account for work, jokes, and other forwards. One forward from that manager’s account included some confidential material. Well, that cost me my job.
It was the classic one-two. I did find it an honour I was being signed under the manager’s name, but I should have known I would be watched closely and highly scrutinized for what happened there. I should have been more careful in that position to what I might have been privy to. More importantly, I should have just had them move the access for the other e-mail to my computer and I could have totally been safe from this last scenario. I understand their situation, and I can see mine, and if both parties had been wiser, this whole thing could have been avoided.
Well, it has been a learning experience. I now start the job hunt again all over again. Just as I had met with HR to secure a full time position and
everything, I had quite the job search a month or so ago leaving me completely off guard.
Life goes on. I will have to be more careful, watchful, and wise in the future. The lady at the staffing agency told me she thought it was a bit of
a “throw Paul under the bus” scenario, but what is to be done now?
In other news, the Queen is here in Richmond and I am going to walk over and say hello to her. The best part, I don’t have to worry about getting out of work to attend the festivities.
This is more self explanatory. This is from Calvin Sheppard who is the
brother to my Nancy Adeline Shepherd. She would be my great, great great
grandmother. He spelled his name differently.
Between 1914 and 1915 a questionnaire form was sent to all known living
Tennessee Civil War Veterans. All were returned by 1922. I will type up
the questions and insert Calvin Sheppard’s response after the question from
the following pages.
The Tennessee Civil War Veterans Questionnaires
Volume 5, Confederate Soldiers, pg 1946-1947
1. State your full name and present Post Office address:
Calvin Sheppard, Dandridge, Jefferson Co., Tenn.
2. State your age now:
Seventy Nine 14th of May
3. In what State and county were you born?
Pulaski County, Va.
4. In what State and county were you living when you enlisted in the service
of the Confederacy, or of the Federal Government?
Newbern (Pulaski county, Va.?) Confederacy.
5. What was your occupation before the war?
6. What was the occupation of your father?
7. If you owned land or other property at the opening of the war, state what
kind of property you owned, and state the value of your property as near as
8. Did you or your parents own slaves? If so, how many?
9. If your parents owned land, state about how many acres.
My father owned 75 acres.
10. State as near as you can the value of all the property owned by your
parents, including land, when the war opened.
11. What kind of house did your parents occupy? State whether it was a log
house or frame house or built of other materials, and state the number of
rooms it had.
Log house, six rooms, good barn, well wattered and layed.
12. As a boy and young man, state what kind of work you did. If you worked
on a farm, state to what extent you plowed, worked with a hoe, and did other
kinds of similar work.
I did all kinds of work on the farm, plowed, hoed, cradled, —ed and did
any and everything that was to do on a farm.
13. State clearly what kind of work your father did, and what the duties of
your mother were. State all the kinds of work done in the house as well as
you can remember – that is, cooking, spinning, weaving, ect.
We had sheep and raised flax, had two good looms and two wheels my Mother
raised her own flax and spun wove and made clothes for the familydid her own
14. Did your parents keep any servants? If so, how many?
They did not keep servants.
15. How was honest toil – as plowing, hauling and other sorts of honest work
of this class – regarded in your community? Was such work considered
respectable and honorable?
All honest work and toil was considered honorable in those days.
16. Did the white men in your community generally engage in such work?
17. To what extent were there white men in your community leading lives of
idleness and having others do their work for them?
Every body except a few rich men that owned slaves did their own work,
nearly everybody worked in those days.
18. Did the men who owned slaves mingle freely with those who did not own
slaves, or did slaveholders in any way show by their actions that they felt
themselves better than respectable, honorable men who did not own slaves?
19. At the churches, at the schools, at public gatherings in general, did
slaveholders and non-slaveholders mingle on a footing of equality?
20. Was there a friendly feeling between slaveholders and non-slaveholders in
your community, or were they antagonistic towards each other?
Most always friendly
21. In a political contest in which one candidate owned slaves and the other
did not, did the fact that one candidate owned slaves help him in winning
Not very much
22. Were the opportunities good in your community for a poor young man -
honest and industrious – to save up enough to buy a small farm or go in
business for himself?
Not much, wages was low and the rich men owned the land in those days.
23. Were poor, honest, industrious young men, who were ambitious to make
something of themselves, encouraged or discouraged by slaveholders?
24. What kind of school or schools did you attend?
We did not have any free schools in those days we had to pay for what we
25. About how long did you go to school altogether?
26. How far was it to the nearest school?
about four miles
27. What school or schools were in operation in your neighborhood?
28. Was the school in your community private or public?
Privet I suppose we had to pay for it.
29. About how many months in the year did it run?
30. Did the boys and girls in your community attend school pretty regularly?
31. Was the teacher of the school you attended a man or a woman?
32. In what year and month and at what place did you enlist in the
Confederate or of the Federal Government?
Oct. 1_, 1862 Pulaski County, Va
33. State the name of your regiment, and state the names of as many members
of your company as you remember.
Company C. Jim Marton, Jack Duncan and myself I enlisted in a home guard
company and was on duty for 15 months at Dublin Va. then went in to regular
servis in company C. Horton command Brecanridge brigade.
34. After enlistment, where was your company sent first?
We went to the Saultville we was in a fight there then we went from one
place to another we was in the Clands? Valley.
35. How long after your enlistment before your company engaged in battle?
about 12 months
36. What was the first battle you engaged in?
37. State in your own way your experience in the war from this time on until
the close. State where you went after the first battle – what you did, what
other battles you engaged in, how long they lasted, what the results were;
state how you lived in camp, how you were clothed, how you slept, what you
had to eat, how you were exposed to cold, hunger, and disease. If you were
in the hospital or in prison, state your experience here.
We went to Withville and was there one winter on duty we were very poorly
clothed had one blanket no matter how cold it was and very little to eat.
38. When and where were you discharged?
Christianburg, April 15?, 1865 we did not have telephones then and did not
know that Jen. Lee had surrendered.
39. Tell something of your trip home.
I walked home.
40. What kind of work did you take up when you came back home?
I worked by the day just when I could get work.
41. Give a sketch of your life since the close of the Civil War, stating
what kind of business you have engaged in, where you have lived, your church
relations, etc. If you have held an office or offices, state what it was.
You may state here any other facts connected with your life and experience
which has not been brought out by the questions.
I have worked hard all my life, farmed mostly.
42. Give the full name of your father. Born, at, in the county of, state
of? He lived at? Give also any particulars concerning him, as official
position, war services, etc. Books written by, etc.
William Shepard; —-, Pulaski co., va, —
43. Maiden name in full of your mother. She was the daughter of (full name)
and his wife (full name) who lived at?
Nancie Marton, William Marton, —-
44. Remarks on ancestry. Give here any and all facts possible in reference
to your parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, ect., not including in
the foregoing, as where they lived, office held, Revolutionary or other war
services; what country the family came from to America; where first settled,
county and state; always giving full names (if possible) and never referring
to an ancestor simply as such without giving the name. It is desirable to
include every fact possible and to that end the full and exact record from
old Bibles should be appended on separate sheets of this size, thus
preserving the facts from loss.
My grandfather Marton ____ came from Irland and him and one son were in the
War of 1812. My grandfather Shepard was dead before I was born so I know
very little about them but they were Virginian.
Order Book 5, page 25
September 2, 1873
On the motion of Anderson Linkous, Overseer of the Poor for High Wassie Township for an order to bind James Ross aged 3 years son of Nancy Ross who has become a county charge and it appearing to the Court that said James Ross is now a county charge. It is ordered that said Overseer of the Poor bind out according to Law to James Meredith the said James Ross son of Nancy Ross aged 3 years until he attains the age of 21 years and besides teaching him reading, writing and arithmetic said Meredith shall be required to pay the said James Ross upon his attaining the age of 21 years the sum of 100 dollars.
The little boy is my great great grandfather. My great great great grandmother was literally in the poorhouse.
Donna is the granddaughter of Fanny Elizabeth Ross (married Phibbs). This is my Great Grandfather’s sister. Quite an interesting find. Amanda and I were planning on going to out see Howard Ross in Bluefield, West Virginia. Howard thought after the shootings at Blacksburg we better wait since Montgomery County would be too busy to go sightseeing and visiting. But prior to going I e-mailed his nephew John Ross who is a doctor in Beckley, West Virginia. I told him we were coming out and I would like to see him. I knew Howard Ross had given John all his research papers and I was very interested in a copy of them. John is a busy Dr and said he would just mail them to me. So I received a stack of papers about 6 inches high of research letters, notes, and other various things. This letter was in that stack. Most of the stack is on Howard’s Adams lines which doesn’t interest me. So some of the stack is quick moving. I am glad when I find those things related to my bloodline.
PO Box 1894
Burney, Ca 96013
Aug. 13, 1985
Your letter arrived in the mail yesterday. I have also wondered about Nancy Adeline’s life but it is very hard to understand from our perspective. It’s hard for us to really understand the hard life they had. I find people today do not very often understand what I tell of my life as a child in a small town farming community in Idaho. And that was only 50 years ago and I’m still here to tell about it. We lived on a small two acre place with no running water and we had an outhouse. All drinking water had to be carried from the neighboring farm where they had a well. And all water for washing or bathing was carried from an irrigation ditch that ran along one side and down one portion of another side before it went through a culvert under a road to the farm across the road. We did have electricity and we had electrically run appliances such as a wringer type washing machine and a refrigerator. Also, living here in Burney which is about 250 miles from San Francisco I find people who think of San Francisco as “Sin City”, but I grew up there and love it. There are somethings I don’t like about the city and it is always changing, but I have many good friends who still live there and also many cherished memories of my life there. There are murders and drugs and everything that I abhor and do not want in my life right here in this small remote mountain town of Burney.
I say all this as I think its very hard to put ourselves into the scene or time and place that Nancy Adeline lived. My mother’s father’s mother was
also born out of wedlock in Carroll County Virginia. Her maiden name was BOLT and I had heard she was born out of wedlock before from her own son. I didn’t think to question him I knew him to be a good man and honest. He had served as a Missionary for the church and prior to that when I was about twelve years old had lived with us in San Francisco. He was divorced from his first wife who came to our home and raised a ruckus one night while he was there. After he came home from his Mission he married again. This time to the divorced wife of his own brother. His brother had a problem with drinking. Aunt Bertie’s children, and she had fifteen, can’t seem to accept her decision. I was told when we were visiting Carroll County in 1972 the following “The Bold women were beautiful blue eyed blonde women and considered the most beautiful women in the area.” I was also told my great grandmothers mother was never married. But the census records indicate she had four children. She also had at least one or two sisters who never married but had some children. I recently asked John Perry Alderman, is a Federal Judge at Roanoke. But he was District Attorney of Carroll County and had his law offices with his father also John Alderman when we were visiting there in 1972.
Life certainly can get complicated can’t it? While someone in the future may be able to construct some of my life from a few legal documents I know they would not be able to know all about me. My life has been full of things that are not written down. It’s also true of the Bible and that is
why there are so many religions with each on interpreting according to their own interpretation right? I hope all this makes sense to you. At any rate I cannot judge Nancy Adeline (SHEPHERD) ROSS nor can I judge my other great grat grandmother Adeline BOLT. I understand you are a little closer to the situation than I am in that Nancy was your father’s mother. And your family name hinges on the truth. I really have no answers except the few legal documents that we uncover. I have no knowledge as to who is the older, your father or my great grandfather. I only saw James Thomas Ross Meredith on the one occassion a few months before he died in Fresno, California in 1951. His mind was very clear and he told us a little about his life. Such as he had been born out of wedlock and that his real father was James Meredith who had adopted him when he was about 4-6 years old. He also said the courts gave him the name James Thomas Ross Meredith. He said he was raised by his real father. I do not recall his telling anything about his brother or even knowing that he had one until years later. When he went to the temple for his Endowment and had an Endowment done for Damey Catherine Graham he gave his birthplace as Snowville. The Temple Index Bureau tells me there was no sealing done. He did tell us that he reverted to the name Ross in order to save his mother from embarrassment with the Missionaries.
When he was married his name was listed as J.R. Mearideth and his death certificate shows James Meredith with his father as James T Meredith. But all of his children were brought up as Ross and his sons brought their children up as Ross. He didn’t go back to the name Meredith until years
later. Damey Catherine’s death certificate gives her last name as Ross and she died in 1933. So it was after that time. Evidently, Nancy Adeline also lived with James and Damey for sometime while they were living in West Virginia as my great uncle John Phibbs whose mind was also very clear when I interviewed him about 1958 remembered James Rosses mother. Uncle John was a friend to the Ross boys Uncles Bob and John Ross in particular and said he lived with the Ross family for a time. He thought she was about 90 years old and that couldn’t have been, but then many young people believe old people to be much older than they actually are, right? He said she was a strong old lady and could carry heavy sacks of coal and or potatoes slung over her shoulders. I’m convinced most of us are weaklings compared to our ancestors even if we are much larger in general.
Mrs. Clarita Morgan said, she believes Nancy had an incredibly hard life. She said women were put in jail for having children out of wedlock. She
also said James was taken away from Nancy when he was bound out to James Meredith. She got this from the Count Orders Book of Pulaski County. She just stated that Nancy was in the poorhouse at that time. Mrs. Morgan’s husband became critically ill last spring and she has promised me as soon as she can to get back into the records for me. She has seen the original will of Frederick Shepherd and said while it mentioned his wife Elizabeth there was no mention of any children. I have recently sent her more information regarding the marriages out of her own book showing the marriage of John Shepherd to Levica Martin naming his parents as Felty and Elizabeth Shepherd, as well as telling her that we believe that John was a brother to our William Shepherd as well as Levica Martin being a sister to Nancy Martin Shepherd. I also sent her the copy of the records from the Tennessee Civil War Veterans on Calvin Sheppard. You will note that it is copyrighted and not to be reproduced. But it gives a good description of his family that we would find hard to get anywhere else. I spoke to Mrs. Morgan after that and she said “Why that Shepherd/Sheppard Family is a very old one here”. She then said “It is hard to imagine that he treated Nancy like he did. Meaning that he took her son but didn’t marry her.” She also told me she has some more information for me but has not gotten back into the records yet.
Nancy Martin Shepherd, could have been married to her daughter Charlotte’s father Jackson Bryant. Those records would evidently be in North Carolina. I’m trying to check the 1850 Census for Surrey County at least I have it on order. I’m wondering if I can find William and Polly (Bayes) Martin there. Do you know? I recall you also had Nancy Adeline as possibly born in Ashe County North Carolina. Until I find them and a marriage record for William Shepherd to Nancy Martin or Bryant, I don’t know too much. It appears from earlier records that William was married in the 1840 Census with a family. But who can tell for sure perhaps they were both married before they married each other. William Shepherd is listed in Pulaski Co., in 1850 with wife Nancy and two children older than our Nancy Adeline. They are William Shepherd and Charlotte also listed as a Shepherd. But we find from Charlotte’s marriage record while Nancy Shepherd was her mother her father was Jackson Bryant. But William Shepherd the son disappears and we don’t know if he is also Nancy’s son or if he is William’s son from a former marriage. Until we can find more evidence that remains a mystery. But it is great that we have Calvin’s record telling us who his parents are and also mentioning his grandfather William Martin. And it is apparent from that record that William Martin was married before he married Polly Bayes.
None of this is unusual there were some divorces in those days but lots of people died much younger and of all kinds of diseases in those days that we don’t have now. And many people remarried.
I also believe that the Census Takers were not qualified to always know whether a person was “Idiotic or wahter.” I have two adopted children and both have Cerebral Palsy. People as well as Doctors have labeled them. Cerebral Palsy, therefore mentally retarded for years. It isn’t necessarily so. David will be 20 years old in October and he walks with a limp and is called Moderate Cerebral Palsy. Since he was in an institution for mentally retarded from 3 years until 12 and 1/2 years he picked up some traits which appear to be those of a mentally retarded person. Had he been in a home with a loving family all those years he would probably not have had those characteristics. I’ve had a young woman who has Cerebral Palsy and lived with her family who was married and had a child and worked for the Cerebral Palsy Office in Oakland, California tell me, “Oh yes people always think we are mentally retarded.” It’s obvious to me that is not so. My daughter Noel (pronounced as Noelle) is called Mild Cerebral Palsy and it is not apparent to most people that she has any anything. I think it is between that person and the Lord. I am not angry at you for any of your thoughts and I understand it is normal to wonder about all of these people. But it is also FASCINATING to find whatever information we may be able to find regarding our ancestors.
Charlotte’s last name was shown as Martin though and that does lead one to believe she was born out of wedlock.
The John Perry Alderman that I mentioned before has done a wonderful job of research spending over 25 years and is publishing books on the Carroll County people. I have his book called, CARROLL 1765-1815 THE SETTLEMENTS. I have found several of my early lines in there the
SHOCKLEY’S-BOLT’S-FRANKLIN’S-WORRALL’S and the NEWMAN’S. He did it from the Deed Books the Will Books the Census the Marriage records as well as documented information that has come to him from descendent sources. It is all well documented. My PHIBBS FAMILY didn’t come into Carroll until the 1840’s from Guilford County North Carolina and he doesn’t know much about them. But I have some Guilford records on them and I belong to the Guilford County Genealogical Society. In addition to all of this I am gathering information on my fathers lines. His father’s is in Central Pennsylvania and his mother’s is a Vermont and New England Family. As well as doing research on my hunsband’s family. His Perry family came from Ohio after 1855 to Iowa from there to Kansas after 1882 to California by 1910. His Warrren line from somewhere in Virginia (wife born Germany) to Ohio to Missouri to Washington to California. Another Vliet from Virginia to Illinois to Kansa to Washington Territory, Mrs. Vliet’s – Wheeler Family, her father came from South Carolina and mother from North Carolina their older children were born in Tennessee but their daugher Louisa my husband’s children were born in Tennessee but their daughter Louisa my husband’s 2nd great grandmother was born in Illinois where she and Garrett Vliet married. And on his mothers side her father came from Sweden and luckily some
relatives over there have sent quite a lot of that information. Then his mothers mothers line Beard came from New Jersey to Pennsylvania to Ohio to Indiana to Iowa to Missouri and finally to California before 1880. His third great grandfather Beard was born in Sept. 1799 in Pennsylvania and died in the 1890’s near Fresno California. He is buried in an old Pioneer Cemetery at a place there called Academy, there had been a school there that was the Academy. He also has ancestors who were married in Santa Clara County California in 1856, the husband was born in Ohio in the late 1820’s and his bride in Iowa in the 1830’s. Well enough of that, but I am working on all of these lines. Plus helping a few friends here and there. That story you told me of the woman who killed her baby. I have heard that before and the story was told by Grayson and Laura (Adams) Graham. They said it was Mary (Graham) Deane. I would have to do some digging to be sure of her married name. It may have been Dean (this is correct). They said she overlaid or rolled over her child in the night and it died. That was a fairly common occurance, with babies sleeping in the same beds with their mothers. Mary was a sister to Grayson and my great grandmother Damey Catherine Graham. It was a tragic incident.
I hope this is of some help to you. It appears Nancy Adeline was never married to anyone but Harve D. Ross. I agree the marriage was undoubtedly commsumated. After all they were listed as living together with her parents in 1860. Obviously, Nancy was capable of having dhileren and could have born them. Perhaps the trouble lies with Harve unless he is actually your father’s father and anything is possible including that not everyone gets pregnant right away. It is possible Nancy Adeline worked as a domestic in the Meredith home and was forced into an uncompromising position. Women were treated like chattel in those days and I don’t know if her parents were still living at that time or if they had left Pulaski County. She was listed as you said with her Aunt Levica and what had become of John Shepherd. Were these men in the Confederate Army during the Civil War. It is said that Damey Catherine Graham’s father William Addison Graham was enlisted at age fifteen three days before the War ended. I can find no record of him through the National Archives but then they can’t tell me about William’s father Robert A Graham either who also served from Pulaski County. Mrs. Morgan says she has records of those from Pulaski County. I have also checked with Richmond as they may have been in the local militia.
The National Archives also had nothing on Calvin Shepherd/Sheppard. The problems which resulted in the Civil War was going on for years before and the effects lasted years after.
I lived in San Francisco during World War II and even though I was 11-15 years old I was aware of much of what was going on around me. We moved from the small farming community in Twin Falls County Idaho (a dry state) to San Francisco California in early 1942. I had spent two weeks in California in July of 1941 before I turned eleven. I was aware alcohol was sold everywhere. I had never seen anyone drunk until I came to California.
Talk about CULTURE SHOCK. At any rate it was quite an experience and I will never forget it. I had a very straight laced grandmother who had never smoked or drank in her life. But I found out many years later she had been about six months pregnant when she was married. I don’t love her anyless, she was special to me. My grandfather her husband like to go to a place called the pool hall. No respectable woman would be caught dead there. When we arrived in California and the first evening (this being July 1941 and I was 10 years old) and I heard my own grandmother (mother’s mother) Fannie Elizabeth (Ross) Phibbs, day she would go with them to buy liquor. I was shocked!!! Many of the family on that side consider me a snob to this day. It was just CULTURE SHOCK. My grandmother Fannie and two of her daughters died of Cirrhosis of the liver or alcohol related deaths. Another who was only six months older than I committed suicide by shooting herself through the head as her father my grandfather did. She had had an injury and was given some drug by prescription for it but she also drank some and as we know they don’t mix. Aunt Florence as you will remember is the oldest and she turned 78 in June of this year and she looks better than my 73 year old mother and both of them are very clear. Mother needs hearing aids for both ears (she was just checked out last week), but we have been aware that
she needs them for a while. She fought the idea I think it was more the expense than anything. They have one other sister who is younger who is
still living and she is in good health. She is Viola and she just turned 67 last month. There are three brothers also living Bill will be 65 in October
and he is okay. He had some problems which resulted in his not being able to use sugar and it was not diabetes. They said he was bad until they found what the problem was. He dosn’t smoke or drink at all and hasn’t for years.
Then there is Orval, he is about 62/3 years of age, he is dying of cancer of the lung. I haven’t seen him for years another brother Arthur died of
cancer of the lung two years ago he was only 57 year old at the time. The youngest brother is Rick and he will be 58 on Dec. 25th, and he is not in
very good shape he is rather crippled up I don’t know what from. Again I haven’t seen him for years. But he writes every Christmas and sends a card to me. The only other brother they had died in 1977 and he Jimmy was the eldest of the boys, he was born in 1916 and he died of the disease that the Baseball Player Lou Gehrig died of. He was sick for quite a few years, he drank quite a lot and smoked besides.
I’m glad we have the principal of repentance and forgiveness or I’m sure none of us would ever make it. We have all made mistakes and I’m told by church authorities once we make the proper repentance if need by through our Bishop, we don’t owe anyone an explanation. It is between ourselves and our Heavenly Father. So if the Lord can be that gracious to me or any other person who makes a mistke I’m sure he understands Nancy Adeline (Shepherd) Rosses and Adaline Bold’s and my grandmother Dorothy Ketcham (Balis) Beachell’s and my grandmother Fannie Elizabeth (Ross) Phibbs and anyone elses problems and I am glad to leave it up to him to decide since each case is different and individual.
When James Thomas Ross went to the temple in Salt Lake City to be endowed it was June 20, 1935. He gave his name as James Thomas Ross, born 22 Sept. 1870 at Snowsville, Pulaski, Virginia. Father was given as James Thomas Ross and mother as Nancy Shepard. He also gave his baptism date as 17 Apr 1898 and Damie Catherine Graham as born 25 Nov. 1873 born Pulaski Va. died 3 Feb 1933. Father Wm. Addison Graham mother Elizabeth Miles. He didn’t give a marriage date but said she had been married to him. He gave her baptism date as about 1897. When my grandmother was sealed they took down her information as follows: Name in full Fanny Ross born 18 Nov. 1893 at Radford, Radford, Va. Father Jas. F. Ross mother Damy C. Graham. She was endowed 20 June 1923 and her baptism is given as 5 Jul 1906. I have understood she and her brother James Thomas Ross were baptized the same day at Welch, McDowell, W. Va. This brother was called Tom Ross, but I have his death certificate and it says James Thomas Meredith aka (also known as) James Thomas Ross born Oct 19, 1895 in Virginia died July 16, 1964 at Los
Angeles County General Hospital. My grandmother was baptized the same year she was married. She was married in Dec of 1906. I have talked to someone in Salt Lake at the Genealogical Society and they said I should write it all down and send it in. He probably didn’t realize in 1935 how important it would all be to be so accurate ect. In a book of records kept by my grandfather he gives my grandmothers birthplace as Reed Island, Virginia.
I’ve also worked in hospitals doing nursing ect and I have personally seen people die of Cirrhosis of the Liver and know it isn’t any too pleasant,
I’ve often said I have no illusions.
I’ve certainly written a long letter here. I hope it is of some help to you. I’m waiting to hear from Mrs. Morgan again and I hope it won’t be too
long. And I hope we will be able to gain further knowledge regarding these families. Mrs. Morgan lives behind a Phibbs relative of mine in Pulaski
City. They are good friends and she told me to come and stay with her if I get back there. She also said you are going to write a book aren’t you? I haven’t gotten to that point yet. Anyway I had better stop here and get my family fed.
Donna (Beachell) Perry